{"id":8294,"date":"2015-03-26T03:42:35","date_gmt":"2015-03-26T08:42:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/commotioninthepews.com\/?p=8294"},"modified":"2015-03-25T23:59:03","modified_gmt":"2015-03-26T04:59:03","slug":"love-is-unflinching-when-its-pure-if-you-dont-flinch-sometimes-you-get-slugged-in-the-guts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/commotioninthepews.com\/?p=8294","title":{"rendered":"Love Is Unflinching When It&#8217;s Pure. If You Don&#8217;t Flinch, Sometimes You Get Slugged In The Guts."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Today was a day of sadness for a great number of people I know. The title of today&#8217;s blog makes perfect sense in the context of what they&#8217;re going through.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/follow?original_referer=http%3A%2F%2Fcommotioninthepews.com%2F&amp;screen_name=joecourtemanche&amp;tw_p=followbutton&amp;variant=2.0\">Please follow me on Twitter<\/a>, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/josephcourtemancheauthor\">&#8220;Like&#8221; the Facebook author page<\/a>. Don&#8217;t forget to subscribe (the box is on the right side of the page) to be eligible for free e-books and other benefits!    <\/p>\n<p>I think the old saying &#8220;Love hurts&#8221; is more true than ever when you get past your hormonal overload years. Most of us, if we&#8217;re honest, will confess that a great deal of the passion we felt in our love in our teens\/twenties was due to biological storms taking place in our loins. That doesn&#8217;t mean that you were wrong, it&#8217;s just that that pretty face or six-pack abs was a bit more important in the beginning than their knowledge of Semitic history, or their ability to make great and beautiful things with knitting needles. <\/p>\n<p>Now, in the second half-century of my life, I see the amazing love that older people have for each other in a different light. I also see the pain and anguish that goes with that love that matures in your thirties and beyond.<\/p>\n<p>Today, and every day, I would like it if you&#8217;d pray for people who are on the edge of losing a loved one. Sometimes it&#8217;s a beloved dog that a lonely person has had for a decade. Sometimes it&#8217;s a cat that has been with them since it was a kitten. And sometimes it&#8217;s a human to whom they were paired and are now about to lose. All of those are harder when you get older.<\/p>\n<p>It is often said that Facebook makes us cruel and venal. Today, and quite a bit recently, I saw just the opposite happen. I had a dear friend let her sphere know that the love of her life, her husband, would not be leaving the hospital after a long illness. He&#8217;d been fighting hard, she&#8217;d been fighting hard, but the battle is being lost and he&#8217;s now being given palliative care. I can&#8217;t reach out and touch her hand, but I can pray. A lot of others who read her post chimed in as well. The best in us comes out when another&#8217;s in need.<\/p>\n<p>Another friend, much younger than me, has a brother-in-law who&#8217;s in an induced coma now while they treat the flesh-eating bacteria that is trying to take his life. It&#8217;s under control. But it&#8217;s the second person whom I&#8217;ve been aware of with this condition in the past three years. Satan is pretty busy trying to bump off good people with this one.<\/p>\n<p>A third friend was bitten by the dog she adopted. No biggie, right? Wrong. There is an infection raging in her body and she&#8217;s been hospitalized to treat it with massive doses of antibiotics. For her act of kindness, adopting a dog, she&#8217;s at risk of serious damage to her body. <\/p>\n<p>Pray also for my friend who is in chronic pain and undergoing a procedure this Friday for a chance to end that pain. If it doesn&#8217;t work, I know they&#8217;ll be devastated. The pain is crippling, and depressing. Mind and body go together, and this good soul is very low.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, pray for another brave person I know who is dealing with a sexual assault many years after the fact. Struggling to be free of the shame, guilt, and depression that ride along with that soul-stealing act of an evil man. <\/p>\n<p>All of these people have loved ones who suffer along with them. Pray for them also. It&#8217;s harder in some cases to be the caregiver than the one cared for in these situations. Each of them will be touched by your prayer.<\/p>\n<p>Remember the lonely who have no other to comfort them and pray for them. Reach out and do a kind deed for an older person who is alone.<\/p>\n<p>Thank you for listening to me today. It&#8217;s been a tough day.<\/p>\n<p>  *********           **********           ***********       ***********<\/p>\n<p>I have a favor to ask of my readers: would you kindly share this blog with your friends, family, and colleagues? We hit a million views in 2014, and while the readership continues a nice growth trend, it could be a lot better. Just hit the Facebook like button, share it on your timeline, tweet the blog with a link, and tell that person at the next desk that there&#8217;s this lunatic who writes about all sorts of stuff that they might like. <\/p>\n<p>I appreciate your help. When we hit 2,000,000 readers I will give away something cool to a drawing from the subscribers (that&#8217;s the box on the right toward the top) who have helped promote this mess. No used sheets, probably not honey, more likely gift cards. Be a part of it. I&#8217;ll update from time to time where we&#8217;re at in the count. Thanks.<\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today was a day of sadness for a great number of people I know. The title of today&#8217;s blog makes perfect sense in the context of what they&#8217;re going through. 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